A Culture of Honor


Elaine Perkins

A true Kingdom culture cannot be established without a culture of honor.

Honor is important to God. Proverbs 3:9 says to honor the Lord with your possessions and with the first fruits of all your increase.

The Word says to honor your parents. This is a commandment with a promise. Ex. 20:12 says, Honor your father and mother, that your days may be long in the land the Lord your God gives you. When the Word says to honor your father and mother, the word honor is "kabod" which means to GLORY. So we are to glory in our father and mother. It is not an option if they deserve it.

Honor should be demonstrated with people that we have an intimate relationship with but also with those we don't.

Here are some other scriptures on honor:

  • Prov. 15:33; The fear of the Lord is the instruction of wisdom, & before honor is humility.

  • 1 Tim. 5:17; Let the elders who rule well be counted worthy of double honor, especially those who labor in the word & doctrine. Scripture also says honor those in authority, and in

  • Rom. 12:10; we are told to honor one another. Honor changes how we interact with each other, how we talk to each other and how we feel about each other.

Being nice to someone, being polite or likable is not honor although they are important. Respect is highly important and we all need to be respectful. Respect and honor go together but you can speak respectfully to someone and still not honor them.

Although we should respect the status of another submission is NOT honor. Submission is yielding to each other but the church has often used it to mean one person has the power and the other has no power.

Love and honor testify that we belong to Jesus. Jesus honored us when He gave His life for us. HE was given all power but then He gave power to us. Even He doesn't want all control and power. He doesn't control and neither should we. Fear is at the root of control but we are to love and in His love we have no fear because His perfect love casts out all fear.

Jesus empowers and honors us by making us co-heirs with Him. As co-heirs we have the ability to carry into our relationships the Presence of God. His presence and power is what we can give away and that brings value to someone else's life. Honor is seeing the value in someone else. It's having great admiration for them, seeing the wonderful things in them, seeking their highest good, giving them the benefit of any doubt, it prefers them.

Now, this doesn't mean we don't ever confront others. When we let things go and just tolerate someone that is NOT love or honor. We need to confront in LOVE to empower them. Before you confront someone you need to identify the hurt or wrong attitude they had and speak to them with honest communication. They should be left feeling loved and encouraged. Keep in mind LOVE is at the very core of Honor.

In a culture of honor each person should feel they are part of a unit moving together, all should feel powerful and free yet connected. They should be responsible and able to manage their freedom. We need to learn to love and be in unity but don't confuse unity with total agreement or feel your view of truth is what is most important. First, you can have a unity of spirit without always agreeing on everything. What about Healing Rooms. We come from different doctrines and backgrounds, yet we come together in a unity of faith to pray for the sick. Keep in mind that truth is not the most important thing, LOVE is. Protect your investment and connection towards someone even when they make mistakes or when you don't agree. We need to learn to demonstrate our value for our relationships over the value to have someone agree with us or conform to what we want.

Honor allows us to tap into the supernatural too but the absence of honor holds back a release of blessing. In Luke 4:24 Jesus is talking about the fact that a prophet is not honored in his own town. Then He goes on to explain that widows and lepers didn't receive the blessing from Elijah they needed. Why? Because familiarity can cause us to disregard the Spirit of God in someone and miss the blessing God has for you through them.

Matt 10:41 tells us if you want a prophet's reward we must receive the prophet. So if we don't receive (welcome & accept) someone and the gifts in them, we won't receive the blessings of their gifting. We need to honor who someone is in God, not focus on who they aren't. You may value them as a brother, but what that means is you will only get a brother's reward. If someone has a word for you but you don't honor who they are in God and receive, it can shut down what they have for you.